🚨 “Nothing made sense anymore…”

That’s the haunting words from the family of Dean Field—six days before the Sanson house fire that claimed his three little ones and his own life in a suspected mur-der-suicide.

They watched him change:

Sleepless nights, eyes distant, muttering about “keeping them safe from everything”
Strange calls warning “it’s all falling apart soon”
Packing the kids’ toys but no bags—just gone into the flames

Now, relatives break their silence on the red flags that screamed for help: the crumbling marriage, the whispers of despair, the one plea ignored that could’ve changed it all. “We thought he was just stressed. God, why didn’t we act?”

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In the smoldering ruins of a rural Manawatū home, where flames devoured a family’s future on November 15, the relatives of Dean Field are grappling with a question that echoes through their grief: How did they miss the storm brewing in a man they thought they knew? “Nothing made sense anymore,” Dean’s sister, Lisa Field, told reporters in a raw, tear-streaked interview this week. “Six days before that fire, he was calling at odd hours, saying the kids needed to be ‘protected from the chaos.’ We chalked it up to the marriage strain. Hindsight is a cruel thief.”

The tragedy that unfolded in the quiet town of Sanson—a speck on State Highway 1, 25 kilometers southwest of Palmerston North—has left New Zealand reeling. Dean Field, 42, a hands-on mechanic and doting dad known for fixing neighbors’ trucks with a grin, perished alongside his three children: August, 7, the freckle-faced eldest with a passion for cricket; Hugo, 5, the cheeky middle child obsessed with dinosaurs; and Goldie, just 1, whose first birthday photos still light up family phones. Police have launched a homicide probe into the children’s deaths, treating the incident as a murder-suicide, with Field suspected of killing them before igniting the blaze and taking his own life.

The fire broke out around 3:45 p.m. on a crisp Saturday, flames roaring through the single-story wooden house on Sanson Feilding Road. Neighbors, alerted by thick black smoke and the family’s dog Marlo’s frantic barks, dialed 999. Fire crews from Bulls and Feilding arrived within 15 minutes, but the inferno was too fierce; the structure collapsed in under an hour. Inside, rescuers found unimaginable horror: the charred remains of August and Hugo recovered Sunday evening, blessed with karakia by family elders; Goldie’s tiny body located Monday morning by a forensic pathologist, with relatives present for the somber removal. Field’s body, notably unburned and positioned near the children, was extracted earlier that day— a detail that has fueled investigators’ suspicions of deliberate arson.

Manawatū Area Commander Inspector Ross Grantham addressed the media outside the taped-off scene, his face etched with fatigue. “This is an unimaginable tragedy for the families and the Sanson community,” he said, voice steady but eyes hollow. “Our focus is a thorough scene examination—fire forensics, toxicology, the works. We’re supporting the whānau every step.” No accelerants have been publicly confirmed, but sources close to the probe whisper of suspicious ignition points in the kitchen, where family photos once lined the walls.

Chelsey Field, the children’s 38-year-old mother and Dean’s wife of 12 years, was grocery shopping in Palmerston North when the call came—her phone buzzing amid aisles of mundane errands. “She collapsed right there in the store,” a family friend recounted. “Screaming for her babies.” Chelsey, a part-time admin at a local veterinary clinic, returned to find her world in ashes: not just her children and husband, but the urn holding ashes of their stillborn daughter Iris, lost to the blaze. In a statement via the Givealittle fundraiser—now surpassing $250,000 from over 4,000 donors—she clarified: “Dean and I were not separated. We were together, facing life’s ups and downs as a team.” Yet whispers persist of marital strains: financial pressures from Dean’s freelance mechanic gigs amid rising rural costs, and quiet arguments over parenting styles.

The family’s first public glimpse into the lead-up came this week, shattering the stoic silence. Six days prior, on November 9, Dean arrived unannounced at his parents’ Feilding home around midnight, children in tow, eyes darting like a man haunted. “He said the house felt ‘wrong’—like something bad was coming,” Lisa recalled. “August was clutching his cricket bat, Hugo had his dino book, Goldie asleep on his shoulder. Dean wouldn’t stay; he just wanted to ‘check in’ before heading back.”

Relatives pieced together a timeline of unease. November 10: Dean skipped a routine check-up, texting Chelsey, “Need to keep things tight—world’s too loose.” November 11: He fixed a neighbor’s ute but seemed distracted, rambling about “protecting what’s mine forever.” That evening, he FaceTimed his brother in Auckland: “If it all goes south, know the kids are safe with me.” November 12: A cryptic note left for Chelsey—”For Iris’s sake, hold on”—found tucked in her purse post-fire. By November 13, Dean was pacing the Sanson property, boarding a window after a “bad dream,” per a cousin’s affidavit to police.

“We noticed the shift months back,” Dean’s mother, Florence Field, 68, shared haltingly. “He’d always been the rock—coaching August’s team, building forts with Hugo. But after Iris… he carried that grief like a shadow. Sleepless, withdrawn. We urged counseling; he said he’d book it.” No formal mental health records have surfaced, but rural New Zealand’s access gaps loom large: Wait times for Manawatū DHB psychologists stretch six months, per Health NZ stats.

The afternoon of the fire unfolded deceptively normal. Dean and Chelsey hosted a low-key barbecue; neighbors waved as she left for town around 3 p.m., kids napping inside. “Last words to me: ‘Love you, see you soon,’” she told supporters. Twenty minutes later, smoke billowed. A passing motorist, Alan Parker, dialed emergency: “Kids inside—get here now!” Parker’s account chills: He knew Dean as “the bloke who’d lend tools without asking,” but sensed “something off lately—quieter, eyes far away.”

Post-mortems, completed last week, confirmed smoke inhalation and thermal injuries for the children; Field’s cause remains under review, with no burns noted—a red flag for staging, experts say. Detective Inspector Jeremy Sharp, leading the probe, vowed transparency: “Homicides of tamariki demand answers. We’re exhaustive—for Chelsey, for Sanson.” No note found, but a laptop from the wreckage holds encrypted files; digital forensics are underway.

Sanson, population 500, mourns viscerally. The Crossroads Church in Palmerston North hosted the children’s funeral on November 24—caskets draped in whānau quilts, August’s cricket gear, Hugo’s plastic dinos, Goldie’s tiny shoes atop hers. “Three beautiful angels taken too soon,” the eulogy read, livestreamed to thousands. Dean’s private farewell followed days earlier, notice simple: “Adored Dad, deeply loved uncle.” Schoolmates at Sanson School, where August and Hugo attended, get “minimal support,” a guardian fumed—crayon drawings and a single counselor visit deemed insufficient by parents reeling from playground whispers.

Nationwide, the case ignites debate on family violence and mental health. “One in three Kiwi women face abuse; men like Dean bottle it until explosion,” says Dr. Siouxsie Wiles, Auckland University epidemiologist. “Rural isolation amplifies—fewer eyes, longer waits for help.” Givealittle messages pour in: “For Chelsey’s hardest journey.” Premier Christopher Luxon pledged $500,000 for Manawatū grief services, but critics demand systemic overhaul: Mandatory psych evals in custody spats, firearm flags for at-risk dads.

For the Fields, fractured by loss, questions fester. “That midnight visit—should’ve grabbed the keys, called Lifeline,” Lisa agonized. Florence clings to a photo: Dean hoisting Goldie on shoulders, pure joy. “He loved them fiercely. What broke that?”

Dean’s funeral notice ended poignantly: “United with Iris now.” As Sanson’s fields turn gold under spring sun, the fire’s scar—a blackened lot cordoned yellow—reminds: In quiet towns, silent storms brew. Chelsey, rebuilding amid donations, whispers to donors: “Hold your whānau tight. Tomorrow isn’t promised.”

Police urge tips: 105 or [email protected]. For crisis: 1737.